*Disclaimer – this post is about my faith in Jesus. If you feel like it’s a little too preachy for you, or that’s not really your thing, that’s fine, you don’t have to read this. I hope you enjoy the rest of the website.
As I enter the twilight years of my 20s, the natural inclination is to go ahead and do the ‘life-check’. If I map out where things are at in my life right now, am I happy with the direction and trajectory of where I might end up? I’m married, have my own apartment, live overseas and have a pretty successful job. Everything’s coming up Milhouse…
How arrogant of me.
Is my life really all about me?
Also, even if I did have a plan for the next twenty years, does everything ever go to plan? Did I see myself where I am right now?
The questions you ask yourself, others or God actually indicate where your heart is at. Out of the overflow of your heart, the mouth speaks, right? (Luke 6:45). So… maybe these questions are more important: “God, who are you?” or “What’s most important right now? Holy Spirit would you show me opportunities to bring hope to a broken world?”
I’ve been praying and asking a lot of questions around this stage of life. Off the back of all of this, I’ve written a relatively simple and short list that applies directly to my life, and quite possibly yours.
Here’s the list:
The 3 best things to do in your 20s.
1. Accept the love of God.
I’m becoming more and more aware that Jesus is the answer to the world’s problems. Following Christ doesn’t mean an easy ride, (Matthew 16:24), but the love of God is what brings meaning and context to the whole situation.
I’m convinced that there is no peace like knowing the peace that comes from knowing the love of God. Jesus is my everything. My relationship with God isn’t something I put in a box and leave on a shelf at home, it completely alters the way I perceive my whole world.
2. Love Others.
Being a foreigner gives you the strangest sense on what it feels like to be on the ‘outside’. Sure, I’m still married, have a great job and have moved to a relatively similar culture, but it’s such bizarre thing to feel like an outsider.
What stands out over the last three months is the kindness that has been shown to me. It’s made me think about the impact I have on others. Am I someone that truly loves those around me?
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
This is what I want my life to be about. I want to be about loving others unconditionally, generously and selflessly. I don’t always get it right, but I’m a work in progress, (Phil 1:6).
3. Discover who you are and how God has made you.
Discovering how God made you to be is really something that changes how you perceive your life.
Has he made you a planner? Spontaneous? Introvert? Extrovert? Calculated? Creative? Relational? Inspirational?
Also, what are your passions?
Sports? Photography? Science? Family? Media? Church? Politics? Video games?
When you’re in your 20s, there’s this golden opportunity to really explore how God has made you. You are unique. There is no single person who has been given the same combination of talents, passions, resources and relationships, and you’ve got the opportunity to tap into who it is that God made you to be.
It’s curious that the world is filled with 7 Billion unique people, who are all made in the image and the likeness of God (Gen 1:27). I believe that God is is so vast and multi-faceted that we were all made to reflect him, each in our own unique way.
Sometimes, discovering how God has made you means shutting out the opinions of others. Your friends may try and ‘bring you down a notch’ when you start to discover how God has made you and express that.
I actually started writing a blog about four years ago, I put up a post on Facebook and got shut down. It took me four years to start writing again. I had another friend jokingly, (and lovingly) say “Maybe more people would follow you on Instagram if you actually were a somebody, you know, like achieved something or created something”. As you grow in confidence that God has made you a particular way, you learn to care less about these comments.
Find people who will speak life into who you are. Find people that you trust know the real you and ask them how they think God has made you. Lastly, (and probably the first thing you should do), ask God “How have you made me?”
That’s it! I hope to write about my faith every now and then, so I’ve created it as a separate section on my page.
Thanks, and if you have any questions, please comment below or get in touch via email or phone or carrier pigeon.
Much love, Chris.