If Instagram is to be believed, holidaying as a married couple is a series of perfect squares consisting of sunshine, smiling faces and exotic places.
We’ve got this system for arguing, (I mean, ‘discussing things’) where we ‘rouse’ on each other. I know, it sounds weird to have a system, but it works. One of us can say what is annoying us, and the other listens and then says “I just got roused on”. Sounds random, but it’s this little thing that just lightens the mood. It’s also our way of recognising that we can annoy each other, but we love each other like crazy.
Between the squares, forgiveness is essential.
Once the tense moment is done, let it be done. Love keeps no records of wrongs. Enough said.
Things are going to go wrong, and you’re going to get frustrated. That’s not just okay, it’s healthy! We are learning to be flexible, to deal with ambiguity and to problem solve together. We’re learning to handle stress, to communicate frustrations and to extend grace to each other.
When we travel, the Instagram moments are truly incredible. In a strange way though, I feel like it’s between the squares where our marriage is strengthened.